Common surrogacy myths are everywhere from movies and media to outdated assumptions and cultural misunderstandings. These misconceptions can create confusion or hesitation for people exploring parenthood through surrogacy. At Fairfax Surrogacy, we believe education empowers. So today, we’re setting the record straight by debunking common surrogacy myths and shining light on the facts behind this beautiful journey.
Why Do Common Surrogacy Myths Persist?
Before we break down these common surrogacy myths, it’s important to understand why they stick around. These misconceptions often come from:
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Outdated practices like traditional surrogacy
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Misleading portrayals in film, TV, or news media
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Lack of awareness about today’s legal and medical standards
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Emotional fears and misunderstanding of pregnancy and family-building
Understanding the roots of common surrogacy myths helps us replace fear with facts and ensure that every person on the surrogacy journey feels informed, supported, and empowered.
Myth #1: The Surrogate Is the Baby’s Biological Mother
The Truth: Gestational Surrogacy Is Not Traditional Surrogacy
One of the most common surrogacy myths is the belief that the surrogate is biologically related to the baby. In reality, at Fairfax Surrogacy, we only support gestational surrogacy. That means the surrogate has no genetic link to the baby, the embryo is created through IVF using the intended parents’ or donor’s egg and sperm.
Even in rare cases where traditional surrogacy occurs (not at Fairfax), legal contracts and intent- not genetics – determine parenthood.
Myth #2: The Surrogate Might Want to Keep the Baby
This is one of the most persistent and emotional common surrogacy myths, largely due to dramatic movie plots and media sensationalism.
The Truth: Surrogates have no intention of keeping the child. They don’t become surrogates to expand their own families. Instead, they’re motivated by a deep desire to help others. As Natalia, a former Fairfax surrogate, shared:
“If I wanted another baby, I would have had one. I chose surrogacy to give someone else the gift of parenthood.”
Surrogates undergo thorough psychological screening and sign legally binding contracts before the embryo transfer to ensure all rights are clearly defined and protected.
Myth #3: Surrogacy Is Only for the Wealthy
The Truth: Planning Makes It Accessible to More Families
This myth adds to the pile of common surrogacy myths that keep hopeful parents from moving forward. While surrogacy is an investment, it’s increasingly attainable thanks to employer fertility benefits, financing plans, and surrogacy grants.
Fairfax Surrogacy offers fixed-fee programs and trusted financial partners. We’ve supported single parents, LGBTQ+ families, and people from all walks of life.
Related post: Fundraising for Surrogacy: Powerful Ways to Build Your Future Family
Myth #4: Surrogacy Is Illegal or Risky
Another harmful entry in the list of common surrogacy myths is the belief that surrogacy is legally risky or outright banned.
The Truth: Gestational Surrogacy is Legal and Regulated in Many States
Fairfax Surrogacy only operates in surrogacy-friendly states like Maryland, Virginia, and California where clear legal frameworks protect everyone involved. All journeys are guided by contracts written and reviewed by experienced legal experts, ensuring safety and clarity from start to finish.
External Resource: Surrogacy laws by country
Myth #5: Surrogates Are Exploited
This harmful stereotype is one of the most offensive common surrogacy myths, painting surrogates as vulnerable or desperate.
The Truth: Surrogates Are Empowered, Informed, and Supported
Our surrogates are strong, compassionate women who have completed their own families and choose to help others. They receive:
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Fair compensation
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Legal representation
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Comprehensive emotional and medical support
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Access to a vibrant community of fellow surrogates
As one of our experienced GCs shared:
“Being a surrogate isn’t about money. It’s about giving something beautiful to someone who’s been waiting for it their whole life.”
Surrogacy at Fairfax is never transactional – it’s transformational.
Final Thoughts on Common Surrogacy Myths
At Fairfax Surrogacy, we believe that the truth has power. By debunking common surrogacy myths, we aim to create a more compassionate, informed, and inclusive world, one where surrogacy is seen for what it truly is: a beautiful, valid path to building a family.
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